The day and age of technology can be a beautiful thing but I think it definitely has its drawbacks. It can make you feel on top of the world when your Instagram picture gets over 100 likes, but it can also make you feel insignificant when you get less than 20. It can make you feel loved and left out all in the same day. I think it’s human nature to compare ourselves to others. I also think that it has become a bigger issue for most of us with social media at our fingertips. A while back I was reading an article my mom sent me and it said that people tend to post the best 5% of their lives on social media. So that being said I’d be comparing 100% of my life to your best 5%. That’s not fair is it? Being an adult I can rationalize and realize that it is not a fair comparison but that might not come so easily for children and teens.
Honestly even as an adult realizing that I should not compare my life to others doesn’t mean I don’t have those thoughts some times. In the blogging world I am a small fish in a big pond. Like a really small fish. Think Minnow size. And as a new blogger I follow well-known, highly successful ones who blog full time. I do this to learn from them and aspire to be like them some day. But man oh man does it get me down sometimes. These are just normal people that were never on the bachelor who 248 THOUSAND people follow on Instagram. And she lives in my town. She is amazing, I have a serious girl crush going on. But how do I not get a little envious of her life? It’s hard, I know. So I have come up with a few tips to remain present and appreciative of our own lives. You never know what might be happening in other peoples lives. It might not be as glamorous as it looks.
Tips for Positivity and Self-Love.
1. Acknowledge the positives.
Take a moment each day to think about a great thing that happened that day/ something that you are thankful for.
2. Fix the negatives/ forgive your mistakes
Think about the worst thing that happened or something you are down about and come up with a plan to prevent that from happening in the future/ if it’s not preventable. Put it in perspective. You are not dying of cancer. You have a roof over your head and food in your belly!
3. Change your language.
This is the glass half full kind of mentality. When you think positively it is not only infectious to others but you tend to shake off little hiccups
4. STOP comparing yourself to others
Whether this be on social media or in real life. You can appreciate the great things others are doing but that doesn’t mean that you are doing great things too! Instead of thinking “I wish I was doing that” think, “maybe I’ll go there someday”. You are accomplishing great things too. Focus on that!
5. Distance yourself from negativity
We all have that friend/ coworker/ family member who is just negative. Distance yourself from that person. Negativity is contagious. Even more important that that is acknowledging when you might not be feeling the greatest about yourself. You know what I mean, we all have those days/weeks/months where we just aren’t feeling ourselves. This might be a time where you need to stay off social media. This was last week for me. Not only was work so incredibly busy but one night I was looking at Instagram after working a 10 hour day tired AF seeing people out having drinks with friends, on vacation, etc. and I couldn’t help but feel extremely jealous and sad to be quite honest with you. So I decided that it might be best for me to take a break from social media for a few days. It was exactly what the doctor ordered. After a few days off, I returned refreshed and had a new outlook on what I was seeing. Instead of jealousy I felt happy for those people and the activities they were doing. Although I still had serious FOMO (fear of missing out) for not going down to Nashville to cheer on the Wildcats. So to rectify that, I planned a party for all of us that weren’t going to the game. We all had a bast Saturday night, even though they didn’t pull of the W!
This is a different type of post than what you normally see on Nicole Elise, but it’s something that I think the majority of the world struggles with in the age of constant contact we have with social media. I’d really love to hear from you all in the comments, whether you liked it or not. I have thick skin, even though this article doesn’t sound like it. We all have insecurities. I’d love to hear from you guys whether this is something you struggle with and how you stay positive!
My next post will be up Friday! The First day of Fall 🍂, ahhhh! How am I celebrating the first official day of the new season? With a giveaway of course. Thank you all for all you love and support in this journey I call life!